I:0:T Much of the time parenting "experts," which is to say people who got that way mostly by attending college and not so much by raising children, tell us that kids less than six months or a year old don't have the ability to experience real anger. These "experts" see newborns as emotionally pre-functional. They say that even if babies sound angry they really aren't. They're just instinctually communicating or something. I don't know what these parenting professionals believe begins to happen at this magical age of six months or a year that makes babies finally able to be angry when they sound angry. But I know that I disagree with their theory.
In the process of having and raising thirteen kids, I've discovered a few things about how infants function. I think newborns are real people who experience real emotions. I think they're entirely capable of feeling real anger from the moment they're born. If infants' needs aren't me, they experience very natural human anger. And that anger can and does sometimes escalate into temper tantrums. As well, infants are entirely capable of understanding their caregivers' responses to their anger, and they're easily able to understand whether or not they're getting what they need. If babies regularly don't have their anger needs met, they solidly come to trust that likelihood and become predisposed to escalate rapidly into temper tantrums. If they consistently do have their anger needs met, however, they come to trust that likelihood instead and become predisposed not to escalate into throwing temper tantrums.
My first five babies all threw temper tantrums, but my last eight didn't-because I had learned with my fifth what to alter in my parenting style. He was fourteen months when he became forever free of throwing temper tantrums within a week of my implementing my new techniques, which are part of what I now have named, "Infant Anger Management."
There isn't any scientific evidence for the standard theories that every child throws tantrums, and that tantrums are a very natural and normal part of child development. There are multitudes of theories about what causes temper tantrums in children, even brain chemicals! The most typical theories, however, focus on children's: need for attention, low tolerance for frustration, inability to use words to express themselves, lack of problem-solving abilities, and lack of ways to express their emotions. None of these things are the real cause of temper tantrums. They are simply the things that cause pre-tantrum anger. If parents know how to respond to such pre-tantrum anger, it will not develop into temper tantrums. Children who regularly experience parents' appropriate responses to their frustration anger generally develop lots of patience and have no need to express their anger in tantrums.
The first part of my "Infant Anger Management" system is responding properly to children's and infants' pre-tantrum anger. I teach everything that parents need to know so they can totally eliminate and totally prevent tantrums in their children, even those who are ODD, ADHD, and ADD.
In the process of having and raising thirteen kids, I've discovered a few things about how infants function. I think newborns are real people who experience real emotions. I think they're entirely capable of feeling real anger from the moment they're born. If infants' needs aren't me, they experience very natural human anger. And that anger can and does sometimes escalate into temper tantrums. As well, infants are entirely capable of understanding their caregivers' responses to their anger, and they're easily able to understand whether or not they're getting what they need. If babies regularly don't have their anger needs met, they solidly come to trust that likelihood and become predisposed to escalate rapidly into temper tantrums. If they consistently do have their anger needs met, however, they come to trust that likelihood instead and become predisposed not to escalate into throwing temper tantrums.
My first five babies all threw temper tantrums, but my last eight didn't-because I had learned with my fifth what to alter in my parenting style. He was fourteen months when he became forever free of throwing temper tantrums within a week of my implementing my new techniques, which are part of what I now have named, "Infant Anger Management."
There isn't any scientific evidence for the standard theories that every child throws tantrums, and that tantrums are a very natural and normal part of child development. There are multitudes of theories about what causes temper tantrums in children, even brain chemicals! The most typical theories, however, focus on children's: need for attention, low tolerance for frustration, inability to use words to express themselves, lack of problem-solving abilities, and lack of ways to express their emotions. None of these things are the real cause of temper tantrums. They are simply the things that cause pre-tantrum anger. If parents know how to respond to such pre-tantrum anger, it will not develop into temper tantrums. Children who regularly experience parents' appropriate responses to their frustration anger generally develop lots of patience and have no need to express their anger in tantrums.
The first part of my "Infant Anger Management" system is responding properly to children's and infants' pre-tantrum anger. I teach everything that parents need to know so they can totally eliminate and totally prevent tantrums in their children, even those who are ODD, ADHD, and ADD.
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